What is a Dildo?

You’re sitting at the school lunch table and hear a friend talking about the new dildo she just bought. “What is a dildo?” you think to yourself. She goes on and on about how nice it looks and how good it feels. The rest of your friends contribute to the conversation explaining what color dildo they have and where they got it. You want to ask what it is, but are too embarrassed. Dildos are commonly used by teens, but hardly talked about. Do you want to learn about what a dildo is and whether you should get one? If so take notes.

Definition

A dildo is an object shaped like a banana, used for sexual pleasure. They are most commonly used for vaginal pleasure, but can also be used for anal pleasure. There are several different shapes and sizes of dildos. Some very accurately resemble a penis. Others look more like a cucumber.

What’s the point

There are many reasons to use a dildo. For some people, they don’t want to have sex, but do want sexual pleasure. They use a dildo to satisfy their sexual desire, without sex. A dildo can also be used for anyone who can’t find someone to have sex with. It’s a great substitute.

There could be a variety of reasons someone wouldn’t want sex, but would want to use a dildo. One being disabilities. Someone in a wheel chair, for example, wouldn’t be able to easily have sex. Using a toy on the other hand, is possible.

What is a Dildo: handicap symbol
What is a Dildo: Strap on

Some people use it during sex. This is especially common in lesbians. Since lesbians don’t usually have a penis, a dildo provides an alternative for stimulation. If a lesbian enjoys the stimulation from a dildo, that does not mean they will enjoy a penis.

Straight people use dildos too. Some straight couples enjoy pegging. This is a when a dildo gets attached to the person without a penis using a strap on. Then said person inserts the toy into their partners anus and rocks back and fourth. It feels really good for cis gendered males, because they have a Gspot inside their anus.

Picking out your dildo

 

There are a huge variety of dildos. This can make it hard to pick one out. You should first set a price range before visiting a sex store or looking for one online. It’s a good idea to spend at least $20 (16.80 Euros ) to make sure it is reliable. This way you can be confident it won’t break easily. The max price should be the most amount of money you’re comfortable spending on one.

The next thing to do is choose which type of dildo you crave. This is probably the hardest part, because of all the options. You need to know what the different types dildos do. That way you can narrow your options and figure out what you’re looking for. Below is a description of several different types of dildos. Use it as a guide to figure out which one is for you.

Basic
Basic dildos help beginners explore their bodies. They will introduce a newbie into the world of sex toys. They don’t always look like a penis, but all of them have the same shape as a penis. If you’ve never used a dildo before, consider starting off with a basic one. You should start off with one that is small and thin, and then work your way up to a bigger one. Click here to look at a beginner’s dildo.

What is a Dildo: Basic Dildo

Curved 
A curved dildo will allow you to feel unique sensations. The way it works, is it hit spots that are hard to reach. This may be very uncomfortable for some people, or it may be the best thing you’ve ever experienced. They’re definitely worth a try, but only if you’re down for experimentation. Click here to check one out.

What is a dildo: curved dildo

Realistic
If you like how penises look, you may want to buy a realistic dildo. Simple looking at the toy will turn you on. You can choose whatever skin tone you’d like. A lot of realistic dildos also feel like a real penis. They are made out of a material that resembles skin. Using one will feel like regular intercourse. The downside of these toys, is that the skin like material is harder to clean than other materials. Look at some examples here.

What is a Dildo: realistic dildo

Vibrating 
Some dildos are also a vibrator. That way they can really stimulate someone. It will feel a lot different than other types of dildos. You may like it or you may not. If you don’t think your current dildo gives you enough stimulation, then this one should work out great for you. For beginners, it’s best to steer away from this type of dildo. However, if you have one and want to upgrade, give this one a try. Check out vibrating dildos here.

Decorative
Many dildos are made for the sole purpose of display. Some people find this obscure and pointless. Others love the idea of displaying a dildo. These toys are usually made of glass and look asethtically pleasing. You could put one in a nice casing and display it in the house or apartment. It’s common for sex therapists to have at least one of these. Look at an example here.

What is a Dildo: decorative dildo

If none of these options sound like they’re for you, don’t panic. You aren’t alone. Several people prefer other types of toys for sexual pleasure. Some just stick with using hands and avoid sex toys completely. Just because everyone in your friend group has a dildo, doesn’t mean you need one too.

Other factors to consider

Length
This seems obvious, but in case you didn’t know, longer dildos give more stimulation. Does that mean they’re better? Not always. Sometimes they hurt if inserted all the way. Many think that bigger is better. Other people don’t like feeling that much stimulation at once. How long a dildo should be is a person by person case.

What is a dildo: ruler

Width
Just like with length, every person has their own definition of the ideal width. When selecting a width, keep in mind that some people have a tighter or s looser vagina or anus. If you’re getting one for anal play, smaller ones are better. An anus is tighter than a vagina, so don’t get a very large one. If you’ve given birth, you probably have a looser vagina, so a bigger one is a good option.

Material
In general, a silicon material is the best. It is nice to touch, easy to clean, and very common. Despite being trustworthy, silicon doesn’t feel as realistic as some of the other materials. Fake skin, is an option for a realistic-feeling, fake penis. Hard plastic will help out someone who likes a rougher feeling. The material is important to consider, because everyone likes different types of it.

Reviews
If you’re buying your dildo online, do not skip reading the reviews. The reviews are important for information on that specific product. They’ll tell you whether it breaks easily, hurts someone who’s tight, feels realistic, and so on. Make sure to check the bad reviews. By skimming bad reviews, you may notice a pattern of similar problems. If that’s the case, your product is more likely to have the same problems.

Are dildos safe?

As long as you use them properly, they is safe to use. If you’re using one for a vagina, make sure the vagina is very wet before inserting. If you can’t get wet, use lube to help you out. Having liquid is improtant, because it prevents rips and tears in the tissue. For anal play, lube should always be used. Otherwise problems such as anal fissures can occur.

What is a Dildo: lube

A concern you may have about the usage of dildos is that it will get stuck. Using lube will prevent this from happening. It will make the toy easily slide around. If it does get stuck, it’s probably because the muscles around it are tightened. Relaxing and taking deep breaths will unclench the muscles.

It can also get stuck inside you, if it’s used for anal play. This is rare, but it does happen. You can try to push it out yourself, but if you aren’t able to get it out, don’t hesitate getting medical help. Don’t worry, they deal with these types of issues frequently and a sex toy stuck in the anus is definitely not the weirdest thing they’ve seen. They won’t judge you for it. Much weirder objects have been stuck in the anus before. A sex toy is not something to be embarrassed about.

Take Aways

Hopefully you now understand why people like dildos so much. They aren’t for everyone, but are still very popular and commonly used. Although not many people will admit they own a dildo, thousands are purchased everyday. To join the thousands who buy these toys, shop here. If you’ve decided you don’t want one, check out “What is a Bullet Vibrator.”